Whitney Cummings

Comedian, Actress, Producer, Writer, Director and Podcaster

Whitney Cummings is a stand-up comedian, actress, producer, writer, director, and podcaster. Her credits include one comedy album, four stand-up specials, three Comedy Central Roasts, and numerous television series in which she has served various roles including producer, director, showrunner, and actress.

Book Recommendations

Codependent No More

by Melody Beattie

I spent a lot of time working with people that were exhausting, egomaniacs, difficult people, people who would be a time suck in terms of managing their emotions or people that interpreted constructive criticism as rejection and then I felt like I had to take care of their feelings and this and that. I mean, for someone that has those feelings, I also recommend [Melody] Beattie’s book, Codependent No More.

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Getting the Love You Want

by Harville Hendrix, Helen LaKelly Hunt

This book is a lot about how we are attracted to people that have the negative qualities of our primary caretakers. I find that to be incredibly important information just to know that that is how we lean. In general, our brains want to finish unfinished business. In our work life, in our professional life, in our friendships, we tend to be attracted to people who have the negative qualities of our primary caretakers.

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The Gift of Fear

by Gavin de Becker

The first one that I wanted to suggest is a book by Gavin de Becker. It’s called The Gift of Fear: Survival Signals That Protect Us. It’s a lot about stalkers and violence and stuff like that.

But there’s a lot of invaluable advice around hiring people and drawing boundaries with people, vetting people, for people that want to be highly productive, for people that want to have their weekends off, for people who want to have a drama-free workplace, for people who don’t want to spend their time and emotional energy on difficult people. This is a pretty transformative book in terms of learning how to trust your gut and not dismiss red flags or write them off.

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The Continuum Concept

by Jean Liedloff

Another good one, because a lot of my friends are having kids, is called The Continuum Concept. It’s about attachment parenting.

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The Fantasy Bond

by Robert W. Firestone

Another one I give a lot is The Fantasy Bond, which is incredibly dense and clinical but it’s about essentially what happens between ages 1 and 3, sort of ordains your whole life. It’s kind of about attachment, like our attachment strategies based on how much eye contact we got as a child, if we were breastfed, how much physical contact we got, the dynamics we walked into as a child and how we see the world according to those formative years, which is pretty fascinating stuff.

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The Drama of the Gifted Child

by Alice Miller

I give The Drama of the Gifted Child a lot to people. If you’re a creative person, if you have any kind of anxiety or discomfort, just read it. It’s hard to sum up.

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Super Sad True Love Story

by Gary Shteyngart

So I went through this phase of giving people–because I read one fiction book in the last three years called Super Sad True Love Story, by Gary Shteyngart which is phenomenal.

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