Comedian, Actress, Producer, Writer, Director and Podcaster
Whitney Cummings is a stand-up comedian, actress, producer, writer, director, and podcaster. Her credits include one comedy album, four stand-up specials, three Comedy Central Roasts, and numerous television series in which she has served various roles including producer, director, showrunner, and actress.
Codependent No More
by Melody Beattie
I spent a lot of time working with people that were exhausting, egomaniacs, difficult people, people who would be a time suck in terms of managing their emotions or people that interpreted constructive criticism as rejection and then I felt like I had to take care of their feelings and this and that. I mean, for someone that has those feelings, I also recommend [Melody] Beattie’s book, Codependent No More.— Whitney Cummings, source
Getting the Love You Want
by Harville Hendrix, Helen LaKelly Hunt
This book is a lot about how we are attracted to people that have the negative qualities of our primary caretakers. I find that to be incredibly important information just to know that that is how we lean. In general, our brains want to finish unfinished business. In our work life, in our professional life, in our friendships, we tend to be attracted to people who have the negative qualities of our primary caretakers.— Whitney Cummings, source
The Gift of Fear
by Gavin de Becker
The first one that I wanted to suggest is a book by Gavin de Becker. It’s called The Gift of Fear: Survival Signals That Protect Us. It’s a lot about stalkers and violence and stuff like that.
But there’s a lot of invaluable advice around hiring people and drawing boundaries with people, vetting people, for people that want to be highly productive, for people that want to have their weekends off, for people who want to have a drama-free workplace, for people who don’t want to spend their time and emotional energy on difficult people. This is a pretty transformative book in terms of learning how to trust your gut and not dismiss red flags or write them off.— Whitney Cummings, source
The Fantasy Bond
by Robert W. Firestone
Another one I give a lot is The Fantasy Bond, which is incredibly dense and clinical but it’s about essentially what happens between ages 1 and 3, sort of ordains your whole life. It’s kind of about attachment, like our attachment strategies based on how much eye contact we got as a child, if we were breastfed, how much physical contact we got, the dynamics we walked into as a child and how we see the world according to those formative years, which is pretty fascinating stuff.— Whitney Cummings, source